I don't know if I totally buy into this...but here we go: According to a survey of relationship experts by YourTango.com...there's really a good shot your relationship is TOXIC!  89% of experts...that's EIGHT out of NINE...say that MOST people's relationships ARE TOXIC!  That means that the two of you spend most of your time arguing...you both feel like you can't do anything right in the other person's eyes...and you have feelings of depression and anxiety.  Here are the three main reasons that relationships are toxic:

#1.) You had poor role models to show you how to have a GOOD relationship. (I NEVER had a role model for my relationship!!! I did it my way, and my wife did it her way!!! Here we are...31 years later!!! I do not believe in role models for relationships!!!-Grizzly)

#2.) One or both of you has low self-esteem. (You must control your environment, and make yourself happy first! How can you make your significant other happy if you ARE NOT!!! If you are BOTH happy...you can toss #2 in the trash!!!-Grizzly)

#3.) One of you has troble being truly open with your feelings. (Relationships with closed or hidden feelings don't last long enough to become toxic!!! If you hide stuff all the time, especially emotions, you'll be lonely for a long time!!!-Grizzly)